All posts tagged feminism

Adventures in Online Dating Part 5

Published January 15, 2016 by makeuponatightbudget

MAN I GOT SOME GOOD STUFF FOR YOU GUYS TODAY!!!! An entire conversation!!


Its 4:30am. I need to go to sleep because i have to get up for a ohayocon tomorrow. But at least there is a beacon of light keeping me up, a fuckboy in the distance. Behold the slutshaming!!



Now you may ask, why did i respond? Two reasons: one, it WAS FUNNY AS ALL HELL OMFG and two, i always love a good shade throwing session and brin5ing down men. It’s good for the soul. But it gets better.





My response was truly a vision of sarcasm.


So you understand hes a pathetic lowlife asshole right. BUT








It only gets more vulgar, so be warned. Im not sure if this is making him laugh as much as i am. He seems to be trying but he could also just be a large troll. But this is the reality of the minds that some men have when it comes to women.


He proceeded to say that my response was “grahpic” as opposed to what he said beforehand??? Yep, definitely makes sense.

I’ll probably add onto this post as it gets more ridiculous. See if you have a good laugh too.


Feminist Friday: Defend all Disney Princesses [Part 2]

Published July 3, 2015 by makeuponatightbudget

Hey guys! Time for part two of these series. I had a hard time trying to decide which Princess I should do this time. It took me awhile but I boiled it down to Ariel and Pocahontas. Ultimately I decided to go with Pocahontas because she’s my favorite princess!

Pocahontas means the world to me. I’ve always thought she was perfect, beautiful, smart and strong. And I’ve always thought Native American culture was amazing in of itself. Pocahontas is also the first disney princess who looks like me. I’m not Native American but I do have darker skin, deep brown eyes, and thick black hair.

Now most people give P some flack because they’re like you should’ve married Kocoum!


Now I do admit that Kocum is a pretty decent choice. He cares about his tribe, he seems to care about P. He asked for her hand in marriage (via Pocahontas’ father) and is the next in line to be the tribe leader. P tells her father that he’s too serious and that she has other plans for her future. So right here we see that P is strongminded and has dreams like the rest of us. She wants to be the one to decide her own future, not her father or Kocoum. This is especially important because going against your father (and essentially) your tribe was a big deal back then. P has no feelings for Kocoum and if she did marry him it would pretty much be like an arranged marriage and those are never fun.

When Pocahontas sees John Smith, it’s pretty much utter fascination. She has never seen a white man before. She doesn’t know their culture and being the explorer that she is, Pocahontas wants to learn more. Obviously she didn’t know at the beginning that John’s people were there to take away her tribe’s land and kill all her people but you know…she gave him the benefit of the doubt! Not saying this was her best choice but it was a choice she made when she saw that John wasn’t like the other guys.

John isn’t that bad either. He tries to get Ratcliffe to call the whole thing off and he wants to help Pocahontas and her tribe. He doesn’t want anyone to get hurt but because this movie is essentially about bull headed men who rush into things without talking stuff through first all these problems arise. John ends up taking the fall for Kocoum’s murder even thought he didn’t do it and Kocoum started the fight. Pocahontas also wants to show that this is all wrong. She wants both her tribe and the Englishmen to realize what theyre doing is not worth it all. Pocahontas was a peacemaker and made almost everyone realize how wrong it was to start a war.

And in an effort to show his loyalty and how much a decent person he is John Smith takes the bullet for Pocahontas’ father.

Pocahontas is the ONLY princess to have to say goodbye to her beloved at the end of the movie and we don’t really get such a sense of closure until the sequel. Now, we all know that Disney sequels aren’t always the best and P2 is no exception. But it does show Pocahontas doing something that again no other princess has ever done, FALL IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER MAN.

So not only does Pocahontas fall in love with a guy in the first movie all while making her own decisions, she falls in love and breaks up with him like a normal human being would. P and John couldn’t spend the time they wanted together so they grew apart. Pocahontas realized this (she also did think he was probably dead, but that’s beside the point) and started falling for another guy.

Even when she was whisked away to England Pocahontas didn’t change for anyone. No matter how much they dressed her up and tried to “tame” her Pocahontas knew who she was deep down inside. She was part of her tribe, she wasn’t a white woman, she wasn’t English. She knew exactly where she belonged and who she wanted to be with. Pocahontas is literally so strong and badass. She makes a lot of great decisions in order to make herself happy during a time where a woman’s opinion wasn’t valued at all. She’s the one who changed her love life all over again to make sure she was happy¬†as she could be. We all have to remember that bravery and feminism comes in different shapes and sizes. You don’t have to be super tough and beefy to be strong or a feminist. You just have to be you and do whats best for you. So stop knocking down Pocahontas and acting like she isn’t important. She is. In her own special way.

Feminist Friday: Defend all Disney Princesses [Part 1]

Published June 26, 2015 by makeuponatightbudget

Here is something that I will do until the day I die. I may not like every Disney Princess (COUGH COUGH ELSA COUGH COUGH) but I will defend them and how each one is a good example of feminism and women taking hold of their own lives. Note I didn’t say that they were shining examples of feminism but each Disney Princess has her own way of shining, being outstanding and pretty much kicking ass in their own way. There are a few princess I will be avoiding which are Snow White (because I really don’t remember the movie that well. I know the basic plot and all but really not enough to discuss it), Aurora (because I’ve actually never seen Sleeping Beauty, and possibly Elsa….maybe. We’ll see. For sure the first two though.

Let’s start with Cinderella, aka the Miss America of the Disney World. Cinderella is basically seen as the one that started it all or at least began the whole snowball effect. Cinderella faces all kinds of abuse, especially emotionally and mentally. All she truly wanted to do was escape the hell that was living with her evil step family. That’s all she wanted. She wanted to be happy and away from them. She didn’t want to do chores anymore. And because she was barely let outside her idea of being happy and free was going to the biggest ball of the year and getting turnt as all hell. That is pretty much all she wanted. What happened is that when her fairy Godmother did show up and she went to the ball she met a cute boy. This was the first boy that had ever showed interest in her and gave her an awesome time by treating her like a person, not like a slave like the rest of her family did. Cinderella was happy that she got to go out, have fun, party, and meet someone cute. But people always through in the whole, she barely knew him and they got married thing as if it was a bad thing. Here’s the thing, The Prince was the one that wanted to find her. Cinderella couldn’t stop thinking about him but she had to return to her shitty life and stay locked up.

When they got married it was like a breath of relief for cinderella. She got out the house, she could have fun whenever she wanted and be with someone who truly appreciated her. In short Cinderella dealt with the cards that were given to her. She had to obey her abusive family or else they would abuse her more. And when she was given an opportunity to escape and be happy she took it. She did what was best for her and what would make her happy. I don’t blame Cindy one bit. We also have to realize that the time from the usual princess/prince encounter there is a time skip. So while it looks like the pair are getting the married the next day we don’t know exactly how long they spent together before actually getting together. It’s an hour and a half movie, they can’t put months of planning and falling in love in there. On top of that, all the princesses have extravagant weddings and that shit cannot be done in a day. it just can’t. So while it looks like The Prince and Cindy just went off and got hitched, it probably didn’t end that way.

In order to be a strong woman or a person in general you have to make sure you put your ¬†happiness, emotional/physical/mental health above all else. Cindy did just that and went on to live her own happily ever after. She might be “girly” and “too feminine” but we all have to remember that bravery and feminism comes in different shapes and sizes. You don’t have to be super tough and beefy to be strong or a feminist. You just have to be you and do whats best for you. So stop knocking down Cindy and acting like she isn’t important. She is. In her own special way.